From a psychological point of view, the more boldly someone pursues you, the less they will actually love you, with almost no exceptions, because the first sign of true love is timidity and low self-esteem, and from the perspective of human nature, there is a high probability that people who can like you will also love you. Only those who are inferior to you will think you are a treasure. In essence, this is a kind of compensation for self-scarcity.

Those who dare to pursue you boldly and make you feel that they are at ease with themselves. To put it bluntly, they are all people who are cooperating with your performance. They can use various tricks easily because they don't like you. On the contrary, those who are incoherent and clumsy when they see you have a certain chance of liking you.

There is a relatively utilitarian judgment on liking in psychology, that is, if you like someone, it is more or less because the other person is useful to you. It may be that the other person's appearance and figure have a pleasing visual value to you, or it may be that the other person knows how to say Love words give you emotional value, and they may also mean that the other person's maturity can give you a lot of guidance in life.

And if you can't let go of a relationship, the underlying psychological mechanism is that a certain need of yours is vacant. Your brain reminds you to fill this gap, and your subconscious tells you that only the other party can satisfy you.

Then you start to fall into sadness. In fact, only the other person can satisfy you. This kind of thinking is often self-limiting. As long as you get rid of this misunderstanding, you will find that other people can also satisfy you, and you can even be satisfied yourself with a lot of emotional comfort. Own.

American psychologists have done a study. If we feel that the pain we encounter is only ours, then it will be easier for you to get into trouble. You will continue to study what went wrong, and you will get what you want. The pain is short-lived, but the fear of not getting what you want is long-term.

When the default is that I should get it, then if you don't get it, it will become an obsession, which will make you overly summarize what happened to you, so you will never let yourself go.

There are so many desires in a person's life, and there are too many things that can't be obtained, let alone something as random as love. So please remind yourself that when you like someone and can't get it, it is actually a normal state, and being together is accidental. Reprinted from the Internet