Stop trying to get liked. Stop trying to get validated.

I tell people I am not a "nice" person, and I say it consciously. I simply don’t ever try to be liked.

In fact, if you are very close to me and say, “Adaora is a nice person,” I will interrupt you and say, “I am not.”

When you try to be liked, you are trying to be nice. You compromise your principles and slip up when you shouldn’t. You say "Yes" when you should say "No," and you say "No" when you should say "Yes."

Try to be respected—that is all.

And if people choose to disrespect you, weed them out of your space; it simply means they are not in your “tribe.”

What I owe my world is “Value,” not “Niceness.”