I’ve been learning something lately: don’t try to reason with someone while they’re caught up in their emotions.
In the past, whenever I ran into a disagreement, my first instinct was to find evidence, lay out the logic, and convince the other person. Usually, I ended up convincing them to walk away from the relationship.
Later, I understood a simple order of things: first make sure the other person feels, “You’ve heard me,” and only then talk about “who’s right.” Before trust is established, any evidence will be seen as an attack.
That’s not called compromising; it’s called building the road before driving the car.
The cost of communication is always lower than the cost of repairing a relationship.
In the past, whenever I ran into a disagreement, my first instinct was to find evidence, lay out the logic, and convince the other person. Usually, I ended up convincing them to walk away from the relationship.
Later, I understood a simple order of things: first make sure the other person feels, “You’ve heard me,” and only then talk about “who’s right.” Before trust is established, any evidence will be seen as an attack.
That’s not called compromising; it’s called building the road before driving the car.
The cost of communication is always lower than the cost of repairing a relationship.