"Come when you want to come, go when you want to go", it is not about deliberately seeking "ability", but about following "nature".
Look at the world, the sun and the moon rise and set, not late because of who stays, not early because of who expects; the rivers rush, winding around when they meet ravines, falling when they meet cliffs, never obsessing about "where I want to go", just follow the trend. This kind of "coming and going" is one with the Tao, so it is calm and unobstructed.
To cultivate this state, first get rid of "obsession". The reason why people are trapped in "coming or not" and "going or not" is that they have "want" or "fear" in their hearts. For example, when you see good things, you will be greedy, afraid that it will not come; when you encounter annoying things, you will be disgusted, afraid that it will not go. This "greed" and "disgust" are the ropes that bind you.
Try to be a "bystander" every day. When you get up in the morning, don't urge "the sun to go faster"; when it's dusk, don't complain about "time rushing". When you see someone coming, know that it is fate, don't be ecstatic; when you see someone leaving, know that it is fate, don't be sad. Eat when you eat, walk when you walk, when thoughts arise, they arise, don't chase them; when thoughts disappear, they disappear, don't stop them.
After a long time, the heart will be like a mirror. When things come, they are reflected, and when things go, they are empty, leaving no trace. At this time, those who come will come by themselves because you don't refuse; those who leave will leave by themselves because you don't stagnate. It's not that you "can" let it come and go, but that you and this "coming and going" are originally one - just like the wind passing through the treetops, the leaves sway by themselves, not because the leaves want to sway, nor because the wind wants to be strong, but because the Tao flows in it.
When the fire of "I want to control" in your heart is extinguished, "coming and going" becomes natural breathing, why do you need to "exercise"? It's just returning to the original state. $BTC
Look at the world, the sun and the moon rise and set, not late because of who stays, not early because of who expects; the rivers rush, winding around when they meet ravines, falling when they meet cliffs, never obsessing about "where I want to go", just follow the trend. This kind of "coming and going" is one with the Tao, so it is calm and unobstructed.
To cultivate this state, first get rid of "obsession". The reason why people are trapped in "coming or not" and "going or not" is that they have "want" or "fear" in their hearts. For example, when you see good things, you will be greedy, afraid that it will not come; when you encounter annoying things, you will be disgusted, afraid that it will not go. This "greed" and "disgust" are the ropes that bind you.
Try to be a "bystander" every day. When you get up in the morning, don't urge "the sun to go faster"; when it's dusk, don't complain about "time rushing". When you see someone coming, know that it is fate, don't be ecstatic; when you see someone leaving, know that it is fate, don't be sad. Eat when you eat, walk when you walk, when thoughts arise, they arise, don't chase them; when thoughts disappear, they disappear, don't stop them.
After a long time, the heart will be like a mirror. When things come, they are reflected, and when things go, they are empty, leaving no trace. At this time, those who come will come by themselves because you don't refuse; those who leave will leave by themselves because you don't stagnate. It's not that you "can" let it come and go, but that you and this "coming and going" are originally one - just like the wind passing through the treetops, the leaves sway by themselves, not because the leaves want to sway, nor because the wind wants to be strong, but because the Tao flows in it.
When the fire of "I want to control" in your heart is extinguished, "coming and going" becomes natural breathing, why do you need to "exercise"? It's just returning to the original state. $BTC