You must tell your daughter that when she grows up and starts dating, there are special things to pay attention to:
1. Do not marry far away.
2. Don't easily become pregnant before marriage; this may put you in a passive position in your relationship.
3. The so-called love at first sight and growing old together is just an accident in life. However, for most people, the norm of life is to develop feelings over time, resist temptation, and just get by.
4. In a relationship, if your boyfriend asks to borrow money from you or asks you to help him take out a loan, no matter how he pleads, you must not agree. Money matters must be clarified.
5. Don't be easily moved by a bowl of hot porridge in the morning or dozens of words of caring. You need to see the lowest point of this man's character; when it comes to his interests, what kind of face does he show? See if you can accept his worst side. The lowest point of character is the greatest stumbling block to whether the two can continue to get along.
8. If you are extremely infatuated with someone, then you definitely do not deserve that person.
9. Once you find out that your boyfriend has tendencies toward violence, whether verbal or physical, you must decisively leave.
10. Women should never believe that love can make you happy; otherwise, you will never live well. What truly determines whether you can be happy in life is the strength of your and your partner's social survival abilities.
11. A poor-hearted man cannot support a marriage; a foolishly filial man cannot see his wife's grievances; an emotionally uncontrolled man is an unpredictable bomb. Understand these before marriage; don't marry even if it means taking one step at a time.
12. Women without their own financial source and without work, no matter how good their character or how well-behaved they are, hold no value in the eyes of men.
13. There are only 0 instances or countless instances of cheating. Don’t believe that the other person can change; either accept it or separate.
14. Men and women can still be good friends, as long as two conditions are met: both are ugly, both are poor.
15. Remember, those who don't want to make their relationship public are mostly thinking of 'fishing'.
16. What is the truth of marriage? Only by pretending to be blind can one avoid tears; only by pretending to be mute can one avoid arguments; only by pretending to be foolish can one avoid exhaustion. This is the truth of marriage. Long-lasting marriages have nothing to do with love but are related to not exhausting each other.
17. If you find out that your boyfriend has bad habits, such as gambling or drug use, you must decisively break up.
18. If your boyfriend tries to control your social circle and restricts your normal interactions with friends and family, that’s not normal, and you should be wary.
19. Generally, those who are entangled and unclear are not truly in love with you. Someone who truly loves you cannot become repeatedly entangled. Because a person who values you will never put themselves in a position that might lead to losing you.
20. Don't agree to be with someone who has pursued you for a long time. If you are not suitable, don't get back together just because you feel moved.
21. When looking for a boyfriend, avoid those with many brothers; otherwise, there will really be many conflicts later on.
22. In a relationship, never openly show that you love someone else; it should always be subtle and quiet. Once the other person knows you love them, they will start asking for a high price, and it will become difficult for you.
23. Don't date someone who has had too many relationships. If a man has more than three past relationships, he will fall into anxiety and a state of insecurity.
24. The longer the ambiguous period lasts, the less likely the other person truly loves you.
25. The most foolish behavior for women is not to study hard, to fall in love early, and to settle for low-quality men at the bottom level, being moved by low-cost investments.
26. You must avoid those who constantly create internal conflicts. In a family, the most terrifying members are those who frequently create internal contradictions; even minor mistakes can lead to family disputes.
27. Having matching backgrounds is very important; don’t aim too high or marry down. Marriage is a matter of two families; the influence of the original family on a person is huge. Marriage is about two families, and the character of the other person's parents is very important. Before marriage, communicate more with their parents; their current way of life is a reflection of your future life.
28. It's not just about how good he is to you when you're together; you must also see how bad he can be when he’s in a bad mood.
29. If your partner reacts with rage instead of patiently explaining when you question them, then your concerns are valid.
30. You must find someone with similar values. If your values differ too much, even marriage will be hard to sustain. Only those with similar values can understand your vast world; those with different values will just see you as someone looking for trouble.
